Frequently Asked Questions
About Healing Together
What is Healing Together?
Healing Together is an online relationship program designed to help couples improve communication, strengthen emotional connection, and break out of negative patterns to create secure connection between the couple and within each individual. It combines attachment-based relationship principles with guided experiential work and subconscious emotional processing through the Integrative Relational Transformation (IRT) method.
How is this different from couples therapy or counseling?
Many couples counseling approaches focus on communication skills or understanding patterns. Healing Together goes deeper by helping couples change both:
- how they interact (Between)
- what’s driving their reactions internally (Within)
This allows couples to move beyond insight and experience real, lasting change.
What is the IRT method?
The Integrative Relational Transformation (IRT) method is a structured approach that combines:
- Attachment-based relationship work
- Emotionally focused experiential exercises
- Subconscious emotional-resolution techniques
- Relationship Coaching Skills
It helps couples change patterns at the level where they actually begin—not just manage them on the surface.
What does “Between and Within” mean?
It describes the two levels of change in the program:
- Between — your communication, connection, and interaction patterns
- Within — your emotional triggers, beliefs, and internal responses
Working on both at the same time is what creates deeper and more sustainable results.
Who the Program Is For
Is this program right for us?
This program is helpful for couples who:
- Feel stuck in repeating arguments
- Want to improve communication and connection
- Feel disconnected or misunderstood
- Want to strengthen an already good relationship
Do both partners need to participate?
It works best when both partners are involved, but change can still begin when one partner starts applying what they learn.
Is this therapy?
No. Healing Together is a relationship education and coaching program, not psychotherapy. If mental health therapy is needed we encourage couples to find a therapist to support their needs.
Are there situations where this program is not appropriate?
This program is not designed for couples experiencing:
- Ongoing domestic violence
- Active, untreated addiction
- Severe untreated mental health conditions
- Active and ongoing affairs
- Polyamorous relationships
In these cases, more specialized care is recommended first.
How the Program Works
How is the program structured?
The program includes:
- 8 Relationship Mastery Sessions–previously recorded, powerful experiences
- Guided Breakthrough Experiences incorporated into each of the 8 R.M. session
- Optional live weekly support in a group online setting
- Optional private couple and individual coaching sessions
Each session builds on the next to help couples understand and change their patterns.
Can we go at our own pace?
Yes. You can move through the program at your own pace.
We recommend completing no more than one session per week so you have time to practice and integrate what you’re learning.
Are there live sessions?
Yes, optional live weekly Connection Labs and Guided Breakthrough Sessions are available for additional support.
All live sessions are recorded and added to the program library.
Do we have to share in live sessions?
No. Participation is optional. Many couples benefit just from listening and learning from the pre-recorded sessions.
Emotional Experience
Is it normal to feel emotional during the program?
Yes. That’s a natural part of the process.
As couples begin to understand their patterns and access deeper emotions, it’s common for feelings to surface. This is often part of meaningful change and connection.
Results
How long does it take to see results?
Many couples begin to notice changes early as they start applying what they learn.
Deeper, lasting change develops over time with practice.
What if we feel stuck right now?
That’s very common. Feeling stuck usually means you’re caught in patterns that need a different approach. This program is designed specifically to help with stuck places to help couples grow and move forward in their relationship.
What if we’ve already tried therapy or other programs?
Many couples who join us have tried other approaches. Healing Together focuses on both the relationship dynamic and the deeper emotional patterns, which is often the missing piece.
Private Support
What are Private Deep Dive Sessions?
These are one-on-one sessions with Dr. Conrad for couples who want additional support working through more complex dynamics
Do we need private sessions?
No. Many couples make significant progress through the program and live support alone.
Faith & Background
Is this a faith-based program?
Healing Together is faith-friendly but not faith-specific.
You do not need to be religious to participate. Some retreats may include optional faith-based elements.
Getting Started
How do we begin?
You can enroll in the program and begin with the first Relationship Mastery Session. From there, you’ll be guided step-by-step.
Common Concerns
What if my partner is skeptical?
That’s common. Many couples start that way. As understanding grows and small changes happen, openness often follows and partners come along.
What if my partner thinks I’m the problem?
Most couples feel this way at times. The program helps shift both partners out of blame and into understanding the patterns they create together.
What if one of us is more motivated than the other?
Also very common. Change often begins with one person becoming more aware and responding differently and the other person begins to shift towards more engagement.
What if we argue during the program?
That’s normal. The goal isn’t to eliminate conflict—it’s to help you see the negative patterns and have the power to stop them and turn towards each other to create more positive patterns.
What if it feels like it’s too late for us?
Many couples feel this way before things begin to shift. Change is still possible, even when it feels difficult.